Why do people create chaos

Chaos is somewhere between random and predictable. A hallmark of chaotic systems is predictability in the short term that breaks down quickly over time, as in river rapids or ecosystems. Isaac Newton envisioned physics as a set of rules governing a clockwork universe —rules that, once set in motion, would lead to a predetermined outcome.

But chaos theory proves that even the strictest rules and nearly perfect information can lead to unpredictable outcomes. This realization has practical applications for deciding what kinds of things are predictable at all.

On the other hand, broader predictions can still be possible. Climate change is dramatically shifting how we look at the future. Because they have no empathy and cannot handle intimate relationships and are compelled to do what it takes to destroy them. Find supportive friends and family members who you can enjoy your day with instead.

Even spending a holiday alone is preferable than being with someone who will attempt to bully and demean you on a day that should be filled with joy. This is a way to provoke you into reacting and vying for their affection. In his book, The Art of Seduction , Robert Greene suggests that seducers create an aura of desirability by pretending they have many suitors whether thats the reality or not. This involves creating a perceived sense of competition so that the target is compelled to win this highly desirable persons attention and affection.

As Greene writes:. Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid and neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest. To draw your victims closer and make them hungry to possess you, you must create an aura of desirabilityof being wanted and courted by many.

It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention, to win you away from a crowd of admirers. Build a reputation that precedes you: If many have succumbed to your charms there must be a reason.

When placed in a love triangle, opt out of the competition. You never have to compete for a person who is truly worthy of you. Narcissists and psychopaths deprive you of sleep to keep you exhausted and to keep both your mind and body in a state of chaos so you cannot see clearly or act in ways that benefit your well-being. They may deprive you of sleep by arguing with you for hours into the night, provoking you right around bedtime, or treating you with profound cruelty to keep you ruminating and unable to sleep.

Kelly Bulkeley, sleep deprivation is a form of torture. As Bulkeley writes:. When a person is deprived of sleep, the immune system becomes unable to perform these functions.

The negative effects become much more intense when people are already sick, injured, or traumatized. Whatever bodily damage they have suffered will not heal as fast. Whatever pain they are feeling will get worse. Whatever new bodily damage threatens them will be harder to defend against. Forcibly depriving a person of sleep is a profound assault on the entire biological system at the foundation of that persons mind and body. If you find yourself losing sleep daily over a toxic partner, recognize that this is having an enormous effect not just on your mind but also your body.

The addiction to past emotional events can become a painful future of relationships. Separations, divorces and destructive breakups can cause reeling new and more present traumas that now need resolution as a new layer of trauma. In so many situations the fear or repeat failure obstructs the formation of new potentially safe relationships.

This is nothing to be ashamed of, in the presence of past trauma these are behaviours that are completely sub-conscious. This is why emotional addictions are such misunderstood addictions that require a lot of personal work to release.

In emotional addictions, self-defeating cycles may not include obvious substances and may even include admiral processes like personal life goals, work success, wealth etc. People with emotional addictions may only experience short-lived joys of their achievements before the numbing trauma cycle returns. Until we become conscious. Until we become aware that we are not our past, our patterns, or our coping mechanisms we needed to survive. I lived this cycle for almost my entire adult life.

In these relationships, love became distorted. Not sure what your beliefs are? This article can help you figure it out. Very beautiful read. I also think chaos comes much from our roots. I have recognized much of my chaos comes straight from within my family. A lot of reading, meditation, meeting new people and exploring nature makes you realize being calm and creating peace is much more beautiful and fulfilling.

A wonderful article!! I used it for educational purposes on my podcast. I was really enlightened. And I did recognize myself. Thank you so much.. Wow what a load of shit and shitty thing to blame someone as being a victim. Does this apply to people who have suffered multiple instances of child abuse, who then get raped, who then become adult carers to alcholics, who then go on to suffer further abuses or other random events like cancer that are entirely random?

Or did the person invite cancer with their victim story. What a disgusting load of shit you write. How does it apply to those with learning difficulties who have a lot of chaos and people taking advantage of them, oh wait it was just their victim narrative.

It applies to everything David. When you stop blaming and take responsibility you can change your experience. I wish you well. Thanks for your article, I came here because the room around me is chaos, and even though I cleaned it two days ago by some dark force it seems to end up messy over and over again.

Well its not that the rest of my life is all spick and span but I figured I could start with trying to tackle this problem. I wonder do you think the chaos in my room are directly connected to the chaos in the rest of my life? I defenitely recognised myself in some of your writing so I am gonna try and work with your recommendations. I wonder if I ever gonna manage to keep the cupboards closed with the stuff inside…..

Have you got any advice for someone who manages to create exactly what they want for a while then loses it? I sure do: livealifeyoulove. Thanks so much Boni! With this is it possible to get back what you lost or better to focus your intention on moving forwards, not being too specific?

For example if you created an amazing relationship then lost it is it better to try and create a new even better relationship and not focus on the partner that you lost?

Great question. And not specify who it is—although you CAN have a preference. You can learn more about that concept here: livealifeyoulove. Thanks Boni! I grew up in a family of chaos and since then have done everything I could to have the opposite kind of life, as chaos gives me major anxiety.

Every time I see my family I get so anxious because they thrive on chaos. They get jealous of me because I seem to have my act together. The victim mentality is so annoying. Just suck it up, people. We all have crap we have to deal with in our lives and no one wants to constantly listen to your BS that you refuse to address.

Two years with a really good therapist who helped me make progress. Then she leftvand the chaos is back. I look for the positives—I just won an award for being nice from Choose to be Nice.

I practice random acts of kindness. Like, yeah ourvtickets home got screwed up, but now we get to spend more time together. And yet, the chaos seems to find me. An unsettling read as my life is generally in chaos. The reason I felt most uncomfortable with is 5.

Just got to find a way to start changing my life — small accomplishments at first and hopefully it will all add up to something better. I wanted to know what to do when i felt lost and this article popped up. I invite chaos and hardship into my life because I think I deserve it. I always back away from experiences that would be easier on me as if I have to continue to beat myself up.

Fear makes me want to fight, so i hate but it and crave it at the same time. I dont want a poor outcome at work just so I will have something to replace my depression. I want, I deserve better. Yes, you do deserve better Shannon. It will change your life. And you can read it for free. PS The link to read The Map for free: livealifeyoulove. This is some wonderfully written nonsense. The issue I take is with your solutions. These people have only one choice, to look on the bright side.

Unfortunately you also seem to guarantee that their luck will change. That is a lie. The fact is, the law of attraction is a law, just like the law of gravity. I simply offer some very detailed steps on conscious creating for those who are ready to grow and change. I respect your opinion to think anything you want, David. If you apply it with an open mind, do you see changes in your life?

In that regard, the work speaks for itself. I think my life is chaotic. Some of it I create. But tonight, frustration set in again. I ran out of strips, so I went to the store to get more. Now my blood is cooperating, but the machine broke.